Confronting My Perpetrator to Change the World - Thordis Elva

In this conversation, Thordis Elva explores the complexities of mental health, trauma, and the journey of healing from sexual assault. Thordis shares her personal experience as a survivor and the unique path she took towards understanding and reconciling with her perpetrator. The dialogue delves into the themes of forgiveness, empathy, and that healing is a deeply personal journey. We discuss the complexities of apologies and forgiveness, the weight of true forgiveness, and the possible impact of grudges on personal well-being. We delve into the nuances of the courage it takes to acknowledge wrongdoing, and the long-term effects of trauma on relationships and self-identity. The discussion highlights the complexities surrounding sexual violence, the mindset of perpetrators, and the societal structures that perpetuate these issues. Thordis explains the detrimental effects of toxic masculinity on men themselves and emphasizes the importance of changing attitudes and deconstructing gender stereotypes for a healthier society.

Be sure to check out Thordis' and Tom's book South of Forgiveness: A True Story of Rape and Responsibility https://www.amazon.ca/South-Forgiveness-True-Story-Responsibility/dp/151073001X

as well as their powerful TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/thordis_elva_and_tom_stranger_our_story_of_rape_and_reconciliation?subtitle=en

TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE INCLUDE sexual assault, trauma, depression, PTSD

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Welcome to the best podcast you've never heard of. This is a free, safe space for people to learn from other's experiences with mental health and addictions. Bunny Hugs and Mental Health features real life stories and experiences of survivors, bereaved families and professionals. Suicide attempt survivor and host Todd Rennebohm has candid conversations on various mental illnesses, traumas and mental health issues while adding a touch of humour. Consider this podcast a free mental health service! If you have a brain or know someone with a brain, you need to listen!

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